Be a slave.

What! Be a slave? Slavery was abolished years ago.

I am not submissive, how can I be a slave?

We should only be a slave to the Creator. The One who made us in the first place. If we place all of our devotion and love to Him alone, our lives won't be so messed up.

Here's an example:
Juanita loves her husband so much that she would do anything for him. She wakes up early to prepare his breakfast before he goes to work. He eats, says goodbye, then leaves. All within 5 minutes. She feels heartsick. After waking up so early to fix a nice meal for the man that she loves, and he wolfs it down so fast that she didn't have a chance to sit down with him and enjoy the meal together, then off he goes to work. This ritual goes on everyday, finishing the day with the dinner meal, and every time Juanita feels more and more hurt by the lack of attention she gets from her husband. She knows that if she says something about it he'll make a remark like, "What do you want me to do? Stay home with you and hold your hand, then who will pay the bills?" What an extremist. Who said he had to stay home all day.

Juanita realizes that she has become a slave to her husband, emotionally, and she can't stop it. It takes a jolt to the system like when he finally moves out of the house because she is too needy, that makes her wake up.

Be a slave only to your Creator. He will never walk out on you. When you take one step towards Him, He'll come running towards you. When you remember Him, He will remember you. When you beg Him for help, He is there to assist you. When you do good to only please the Creator, He will please you. When you love someone or something only for the sake of the Creator, He will love you and when He loves you He tells the angels to love you, and then the angels love you too. You show that you are His servant and His alone and He will never forsake His servants who do good.

Remember, you are not alone.

We must be willing to get rid of the life that we had planned, in order to have the life that is waiting for us.

Surrender to the Creator. Be His slave. Receive the rewards enumerable.

Stay safe. Stay focused
Peace and love

Mas salaams
Sabreenah

Top 10 things to do after he Leaves

So now he has left you. What do you do now? What to do? What to do?

Do you cry? Hell, Yes. Do you get angy? Yeah, you know it. Do you want him back? You know you do. Is he coming back? Well......

Take back your light. Take back your life. Get on with your life and begin anew. There was life before him and there shall be life after him.

Here are a few things to start doing now to keep from going insane.

1. Make a pot of tea. Keep your hands busy doing something but don't pick up a pot and throw it at him. Chamomile tea is a calming drink, add a pinch of lemon and honey and think of what just happened.


2. Go to the bathroom. Look in the mirror and see the person whose life was just shattered. Reassure her that everything will be alright with time.


3. Go online. Check your bank balances to make sure you have enough to see you through the rough patches. While you still have a joint account pay some bills.


4. Get a new resume, if necessary. If you have been out of the job market, freshen up your resume. Look for career opportunities in your field and start applying ASAP.


5. Develop new skills. Learn a new skill that will make you more marketable and give you pleasure.


6. Balance your checkbook. If you don't already know what is in your bank account, now is the time to start learning how to reconcile your accounts. Many women never handle the money in a marriage and are at a loss when the husband leaves them high and dry.


7. Go out with your girlfriends. Take a break from the house and get away with close friends to relax and rejuvenate.


8. Don't call his family. Wait. It is too soon to let them know. It will only alienate him even further. Do tell your children, if you have some. They don't want to be left out of the family dynamics.


9. Get some sleep. I know it will be difficult to sleep at times but if you neglect your much needed sleep then your body will begin to shut down and your immune system will be compromised.


10. Have faith. This should have been number one but nevertheless it is important to keep your spirits high. Do not become negative about him or the relationship. Ask the Creator to make it easy for you and to fogive you for your sins. You may ask for forgiveness from your ex also, and you must forgive him too, so that the healing may begin.

There is hope. Just like India Arie said "It doesn't cost a thing to smile, you don't have to pay to laugh, you better thank God for that. There's hope."

Mas Salaams

Much Love

Sabreenah