Top 10 things to do after he Leaves

So now he has left you. What do you do now? What to do? What to do?

Do you cry? Hell, Yes. Do you get angy? Yeah, you know it. Do you want him back? You know you do. Is he coming back? Well......

Take back your light. Take back your life. Get on with your life and begin anew. There was life before him and there shall be life after him.

Here are a few things to start doing now to keep from going insane.

1. Make a pot of tea. Keep your hands busy doing something but don't pick up a pot and throw it at him. Chamomile tea is a calming drink, add a pinch of lemon and honey and think of what just happened.


2. Go to the bathroom. Look in the mirror and see the person whose life was just shattered. Reassure her that everything will be alright with time.


3. Go online. Check your bank balances to make sure you have enough to see you through the rough patches. While you still have a joint account pay some bills.


4. Get a new resume, if necessary. If you have been out of the job market, freshen up your resume. Look for career opportunities in your field and start applying ASAP.


5. Develop new skills. Learn a new skill that will make you more marketable and give you pleasure.


6. Balance your checkbook. If you don't already know what is in your bank account, now is the time to start learning how to reconcile your accounts. Many women never handle the money in a marriage and are at a loss when the husband leaves them high and dry.


7. Go out with your girlfriends. Take a break from the house and get away with close friends to relax and rejuvenate.


8. Don't call his family. Wait. It is too soon to let them know. It will only alienate him even further. Do tell your children, if you have some. They don't want to be left out of the family dynamics.


9. Get some sleep. I know it will be difficult to sleep at times but if you neglect your much needed sleep then your body will begin to shut down and your immune system will be compromised.


10. Have faith. This should have been number one but nevertheless it is important to keep your spirits high. Do not become negative about him or the relationship. Ask the Creator to make it easy for you and to fogive you for your sins. You may ask for forgiveness from your ex also, and you must forgive him too, so that the healing may begin.

There is hope. Just like India Arie said "It doesn't cost a thing to smile, you don't have to pay to laugh, you better thank God for that. There's hope."

Mas Salaams

Much Love

Sabreenah